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What’s getting in your way? Are you or your child worried, distressed, frustrated?

Feel like you don’t know what to do next?

People seek a clinical counsellor for many different reasons.

As a parent, you may be worried about the way your child is acting and how they are feeling. You and your child may continue to struggle, especially if your attempts to help haven’t been effective. You may be experiencing frustration, worry, sadness, or even despair.

As the parent of a youth, you may know that something is troubling them, but repeated attempts on your part to talk with them have not helped. You may be baffled, angry or profoundly distressed.

As an adult, you may be experiencing significant challenges or losses that impair your ability to function. At the same time, the demands of daily living don’t give you adequate time to address what’s wrong. You may have realized that your attempts to find a solution are not working.

In these situations, contacting a counsellor can be a wise and significant first step in promoting change. Counselling will provide new possibilities for addressing issues and resolving difficulties so that you and your family can thrive.

"Sheila Lindfield is a uniquely skilled, experienced, and effective counsellor. Her extremely high level of integrity created an atmosphere where I felt safe to explore issues, and to gently find my own solutions and direction. She listens deeply, and provides non-judgemental reflection, and practical support. I am very grateful for the assistance my family received during a very challenging time, and I recommend Sheila to anyone looking for an insightful, honourable therapist."
- Parent

With children (aged 3-12):

Emotional or behavioural difficulties can occur in children at any age. There may be a specific event that caused the problem. Changes in the family’s situation (parental separation, a move, death of a loved one) can adversely affect the child. Or the child may have always had a certain challenge that has recently become more problematic. You may be able to pinpoint the reason, but still not know how to help your child. It may be that the things that helped before are not working this time.

Children respond differently to stressful events depending on their age, and temperament. It’s common for them to regress, so they act like a younger version of themselves. But they may also start exhibiting behaviours you have not seen before. They may have:

  • Increased fears
  • Excessive clinging
  • Nightmares
  • Other problems with sleeping
  • Thumbsucking – bedwetting
  • Change in sleep patterns
  • Irritability
  • Increased sensitivity to noise
  • Stomach or headaches
  • Inability to concentrate
  • Inattention
  • Reluctance to go to school
  • Aggressiveness
  • Withdrawal
  • Loss of interest in things they used to like to do
  • Change in appetite - eating more or less than usual
  • Confusion
  • Marked increase or decrease in energy

With youth (aged 13-19):

Youth may have significant struggles as they grapple with the weighty issues of who they are, and who they want to become. They may have difficulties with peers, with school, with choices they need to make regarding the use of alcohol and drugs. They may also be in conflict with their parents, showing this either by arguing or by retreating into silence. Their difficulties may be negatively impacting younger siblings, as well as their parents.

With adults:

Adults may be struggling with a wide variety of different issues, including anxiety, depression, separation or divorce, loss of a loved one, or major life transitions. Also, adults may have a lengthy history of dealing with a particular issue, which can make the situation more complicated. Clinical counselling allows you to devote time and attention to the issue you need to address. It will assist you to harness your unique strengths and abilities, in the service of change.

With all families and individuals:

I adhere to the standard that counselling clients of all ages have the right to be treated with courtesy and respect, whatever their background, race, ethnicity, sex, religion, sexual orientation or disability.

What do I offer children and families?

I work collaboratively with both parents and children to assist families with the issues that need to be addressed. I use a flexible combination of play and family therapy, which incorporates regular feedback from parents. I adapt what I offer so that it fits with each family’s unique needs. Through the therapy process, the child is able to get “unstuck”, so that they can continue to grow and develop. (For details please see ““Services”)

What do I offer youth?

I offer youth a form of mentoring that provides time and space for them to describe and assess the many conflicting influences on them. As a result, they are more able to make meaningful choices regarding how to build a productive future as they prepare for adult life. (For details, please see “Services”)

What do I offer adults?

I work collaboratively with each individual to identify, clarify, and then assist you in realizing your hopes for change. I expect that different clients will need to work in quite different ways. I believe that each individual is the expert on themselves, and that my role is to tailor what I understand about how people change so that it fits for you. If your needs fall outside my areas of experience and expertise, I will assist with an appropriate referral. (For details, please see “Services”)

Advantages which can result from therapy with children, youth and families:

You will have a clearer understanding of your child’s or youth’s needs and how to address them.

You will feel more confident in your ability to parent your child or youth.

You will be better equipped to assist them with the challenges they are experiencing.

You will be more hopeful as the current situation starts to change.

The relationship you have with your child or youth will strengthen.

Child and parent will both experience increased resiliency – they will have new skills to use with future challenges.

Advantages which can result from individual counselling with adults:

You will have a clearer understanding of how the issue arose, how it is affecting you and what you can do about it.

You will be less encumbered by feelings of anger, grief, sorrow or frustration.

You will be less likely to react in difficult situations in ways you learned when younger, but no longer serve you well.

You will experience being more open to other possible ways of being and acting.

You will have more energy.

You will be able to think clearly and concentrate more fully on the task at hand.

You will experience more restorative sleep.

Getting the fit right

Finding the right clinical counsellor or play therapist for you and your family is important. You need to have confidence that my services will be effective for you or your family’s issues. I am mindful of the financial investment involved, and want to ensure that what I offer fits with your family’s needs.

Free initial phone consultation

I am happy to offer a free 20 minute initial phone consultation to help us both decide if the fit is right. The call will give you a clearer sense of my approach and the ways in which I work. It will also give you the opportunity to explain the issues for which you are seeking help.

I have confidence in my ability to assist your child (or youth) and your family with a wide range of emotional and behavioural issues. If, however, the issue is outside my area of expertise, I will assist you with appropriate referrals.